Friday, March 12, 2010

ONLY GOD CAN TAKE A GOOD WOMAN AND MAKE HER AN EXCELLENT WIFE - Marriage Counseling With The Wonderful Counselor - Part XVIII

What are the character qualities needed by a woman to win and keep a good man or husband ? Is she supposed to be sweet or is she supposed to be sassy ? Dill pickle or honeydew or salsa ? Movies and television shows do not often give a very accurate picture of the kind of woman that it takes to make a good wife. It is very encouraging to know, however, that there is a Voice distinguished from all other voices seeking to guide us through this life. That Voice brings to us the accumulated wisdom of eternal ages and proceeds from a heart of unchangeable love. God Himself is the originator of marriage and He has not ceased to be deeply interested in what happens in this relationship. In this post we continue to look at the 12 keys to the husband's/man's heart; specifically keys 8 and 9.


Make yourself a necessity to your husband by being attentive and helpful. Be a blessing to him in everything. God made from man a woman, to be a companion and helpmeet for him, to be one with him, to cheer, encourage, and bless him. for a cheerful heart vitalizes, and imparts health to the entire system. It is our duty to make the best of everything, and to cultivate a habit of looking at the bright side of things.

While cheerfulness and a calm resignation and peace will make others happy and healthy, it will be of the greatest benefit to oneself. When suffering the results of ill health, it is not an easy matter to be patient and cheerful, or to act with integrity and justice. Health is essential, not only to our own happiness, but to the happiness, of those with whom we associate. So closely is health related to our happiness that we cannot have the latter without the former. Health, life, and happiness are the result of obedience to physical laws governing our bodies. (Proverbs 15:13,15,17:22,12:4,18:22,31:12/Genesis 2:18/Job 17:9/Isaiah 35:3/Mark 12:30/Exodus 15:26/Deuteronomy 7:11,15/Acts27:22,25,36/Ecclesisastes 4:10,11)


The wife, if she has the spirit of Christ, will be careful of her words; she will control her spirit, she will be submissive, and yet will not feel that she is a bondslave, but a companion to her husband. She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness. Any unpleasant spirit displayed is sure to arouse the demon of passion in unguarded hearts. Unholy anger need not to be strengthened, but bridled. It is a spark which will set on fire untamed human nature. The speaking of an angry word is like flint striking flint: it at once kindles wrathful feelings.

Every one of these exhibitions of wrath weakens the nervous system and the moral powers and makes it difficult to restrain anger on another provocation. Hard words beat upon the heart, awaking to life its worst passions. The giving way to violent emotions endangers life. Many die under a burst of rage and passion. To subdue self, and bring the passions under the control of the will, is the greatest conquest that men and women can achieve.

The looks and tones of the voice should be modulated by thoughtful consideration and tender, respectful love. The tones of the voice have much to do in affecting the hearts of those that hear. The looks, the tone of the voice, the actions,--all have their influence in making or marring the happiness of the domestic circle. (Ecclesiastes 7:9/Ephesians 4:26/ Proverbs 12:18,16:24,18:19,22:24,25,31:12,26,29:22,21:19/John 15:13/Matthew 18:7/James 3:2/2 Corinthians 6:3/Acts 24:16)

By the grace of God, we will continue this study in another post. Have a wonderful weekend.

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