Friday, January 1, 2010

DON'T HELP HIM DIE - THE PURPOSE OF A WIFE/WOMAN - Marriage Counseling With the Wonderful Counselor - Part XIII

Can a woman be truly great even if she does not fulfill the purpose for which she was created ? Movies seem to portray in a mocking manner a woman's true potential. If a woman desires a truly good man and wants him to grow more and more in love with her, she will need the following information.


Since the husband’s character needs softening, improving and completeness the wife needs to understand exactly what character is. What is that makes up the character ?

“...The thoughts and feelings combined make up the moral character.” She should also understand how her husband’s thoughts and feelings are related. If the thoughts are wrong the feelings will be wrong. If the feelings of the natural heart are not restrained and brought into subjection by the sanctifying influence of the grace of God received through the channel of faith, the thoughts of the heart are not pure and holy. The thoughts and feelings cherished give direction to the conduct, and thus determine the character. As a man thinketh, so is he. (Isaiah 55:7/Genesis 6:5/Psalms 10:4/Proverbs 12:5/Philippians 4:8)

A man’s thoughts and feelings lead him to action. Thus his character is revealed. The wife is to soften, improve and give completeness to her husband’s thoughts and feelings. By knowing GOD’s purpose for her, the wife is prepared to recognize and satisfy the needs of her husband’s heart that GOD created her to fulfill. She must first choose to be converted to Christ in order to be able to do this.


The grace of Christ softens harsh traits of character and smooths out the rugged disposition. The grace of Christ changes the whole man, making the coarse refined, the rough gentle, the selfish generous. It controls the temper and the voice. The theme of saving grace is an antidote for a harsh spirit. Grace means favor to one who is undeserving, to one who is lost. (1 Corinthians 15:10/2 Corinthians 8:9/Ephesians 4:29/Colossians 3:16,4:6/Philemon 1:25/James 4:6)

For these reasons the wife herself must first be kept by grace, filled with grace, and living by grace then praying for grace to be bestowed upon her husband. And what must the wife do to receive this grace ? She must be humble. “...for God resisteth the proud, and giveth grace to the humble.”(1 PETER 5:5)

To make God's grace our own, we must act our part. The Lord does not propose to perform for us either the willing or the doing. His grace is given to work in us to will and to do, but never as a substitute for our effort. Unless a determined effort is made to keep the thoughts centered on Christ, grace cannot reveal itself in the life. Every heart that is not subdued by grace is treacherous, and will lead to ruin. (Romans 6:14/2 Corinthians 9:8/Ephesians 2:5,8/Titus 2:11/Hebrews 4:16,12:28/2 Peter 1:2-4,3:18)

Read 2 PETER 1:2 to find out how grace is multiplied and read Hebrews 4:16 to know where you must go to obtain grace.

By the grace of God, we will continue this study in another post. Have a wonderful weekend in Christ

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