Sunday, January 24, 2010

CHARACTERISTICS OF A BEAUTIFUL WOMAN - 12 KEYS TO HIS HEART - Marriage Counseling With The Wonderful Counselor - Part XVI

Do good character qualities come from television shows or movies ? Not according to God. While there are occasional portrayals of moral goodness in films and on screen, true beauty of person is the result of a life of cooperation with Jesus Christ in warring against oneself and doing good to others. The character of man or woman is developed by the grace of God through bringing their lives into harmony with the principles of God revealed int he word of God. Let's look at some more of the heavenly keys to a good man's heart by which a woman may soften and improve His character and give it completeness. Here are keys 3 - 5.


Sin is a disorganizer. Wherever it is cherished--in the individual heart, in the household, in the church--there is disorder. God is displeased with disorder, slackness, and a lack of thoroughness, in anyone. These deficiencies are serious evils and tend to wean the affections of the husband from the wife when the husband loves order, well-disciplined children, and a well-regulated house. A wife and mother cannot make home agreeable and happy unless she possesses a love for order, preserves her dignity, and has good government. Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands. Disorder and untidiness in daily duties will lead to forgetfulness of God and to keeping the form of godliness in a profession of faith, having lost the reality. Unclean, neglected corners in the house will tend to make impure, neglected corners in the soul. Spiritual disease is the result of neglected duty. (1 Corinthians 14:40,33/Psalms 119:133/Proverbs 14:1,31:27/Isaiah 14:12,17/Matthew 12:43-45/Revelation 12:3,4,9)


The wife is to stand by the side of the husband as his equal, sharing all the responsibilities of life, rendering due respect to him who has selected her for his lifelong companion. Woman should fill the position which God originally designed for her, as her husband's equal. The wife can be a comfort, a blessing, standing by the side of her husband as his safe counselor, her influence keeping him to the right, to honesty and purity and godliness. If she will elevate her affections, and in sanctification and honor preserve her refined, womanly dignity, woman can do much by her judicious influence to sanctify her husband, and thus fulfill her high mission. In so doing she can save both her husband and herself, thus performing a double work. (1 Corinthians 7:3,4,14/1 Peter 3:7/Proverbs 18:22/Genesis 2:24/Mark 10:8)


My beloved is mine, and I am his. I am my beloved's, and my beloved is mine. Love cannot long exist without expression. A man's love may be sacredly bestowed, but if it is not sacredly appreciated and reciprocated it will die a natural death. Love is a plant of heavenly growth, and it must be fostered and nourished. While the wife should lean on her husband with respect and deference, she can in a wholesome, healthful way, manifest her strong affection for and confidence in the man she has chosen as her life companion. The reason why there are so many hardhearted men and women in the world is that true affection has been regarded as weakness, and has been discouraged and repressed. (Song of Solomon 2:16,6:3/Proverbs 27:5/Matthew 24:12/Titus 2:4/Ephesians 4;15)

By the grace of God, we will continue this study in another post. Have a wonderful evening.

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