Although there are some men who seem to have a naturally kind disposition toward women, this is not true for every man. Not every man knows how to treat a woman or court a lady. None of us are necessarily born with all the right qualifications as candidates for successful relationships and especially is this true with regard to marriage. However, even if we don't plan to marry or remarry, somewhere along life's way we need to learn what kind of person it takes to make someone else beside ourselves happy. This post speaks to married, marrying or remarrying men but can easily apply to any man in a relationship with a woman. Please take special care to note the relationship between a woman's health and the treatment she receives. In future posts, we will also look at the other side of the relationship equation, "What A Husband/Man Needs - 12 Keys To His Heart - Win Him And Keep Him."
but for right now we are looking at....
WHAT A WIFE/WOMAN NEEDS - 12 KEYS TO HER HEART - WIN HER AND KEEP HER
1. A HUSBAND THAT SHOWS APPRECIATION FOR HER
The husband should let his wife know that he appreciates her work. Let your wife be the object of your special and hearty attention. When you feel as God would have you, you will feel lost without the society of your wife. Only let a woman realize that she is appreciated by her husband and is precious to him, not merely because she is useful and convenient in his house, but because she is a part of himself, and she will respond to his affection and reflect the love bestowed upon her. The husband should show his wife that he appreciates her. Why is the expression of appreciation so important ? The consciousness of being appreciated is a wonderful stimulus and satisfaction. To appreciate means to value and to be appreciated is one of life’s most satisfying joys. Satisfying joys will give vigor to the mind and health and vital energy to the body. (Proverbs 12:25,31:10-12/Psalms 51:8/Ephesians 5:25,28/1 Corinthians 6:20)
2. CONSTANT CAREFUL FAITHFUL ATTENTION, LOVE, SYMPATHY AND COMPASSION
Husbands should be careful, attentive, constant, faithful, and compassionate. They should manifest love and sympathy. Many a wife has sickened and died prematurely for the want of encouraging words of sympathy and love manifested in kindly attentions and in words. Nothing is so fruitful a cause of disease as depression, gloominess, and sadness. Sadness deadens the circulation in the blood vessels and nerves and also retards the action of the liver. It hinders the process of digestion and of nutrition, and has a tendency to dry up the marrow [interior substance] of the whole system. A husband needs to realize, “He can shut the door against much disease. Courage, hope, faith, sympathy, love, promote health and prolong life. (Proverbs 17:22,15:13,12:18,16:24/ Lamentations 2:11)
Sympathy and respect encourage the striving after excellence. God has so constituted us that even the strongest desire sympathy. Love your wife. She is hungering for deep, true, elevating love. Let her have tangible proof that her care and interest for you, shown in her attention to your comfort, is appreciated and returned. Seek her opinion and approval in whatever you engage in. Respect her judgment. Do not feel that you know all that is worth knowing. (Mark 5:19/Zechariah 7:9/Matthew 20:34)
By the grace of God, we will continue with the other 10 keys in other posts. Have a wonderful weekend in Christ.
T.K.
© 2009 Tyrone Keels
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