Friday, December 25, 2009

12 KEYS TO A WIFE'S/WOMAN'S HEART - WIN HER AND KEEP HER - (KEYS 10 - 12) Marriage Counseling With The Wonderful Counselor - Part XII

No it's not money that are the keys to a good woman's heart but a lot of what is presented for entertainment purposes only could convince you otherwise. Not to mention the songs, variety of rap lyrics and publications
which have portrayed opportunistic women as gold diggers. While economic ability in men is required by God, (even if your talent is small), it is not the only character quality that the Creator intends should be one of the keys to obtaining the pure affections of a woman's heart.


Many who have grown to the years and stature of manhood are deficient in the elements that constitute a noble, manly character. God does not regard them as men. They are not reliable. Let a young woman accept as a life companion only one who possesses pure, manly traits of character, one who is diligent, aspiring, and honest, one who loves and fears God. (1 Corinthians 13:11/Proverbs 13:5,10:4/Luke 8:15)

What does it mean to be manly ? Every effort made to break away from the power of a bad habit is manly. To sin is unmanly; to indulge in injurious habits of eating and drinking is weak, cowardly, debased; but to deny perverted appetite is strong, brave, noble. It is manly to do right. (Ephesians 4:24/Proverbs 12:3/Philippians 2:8/Job 17:9)


I am my beloved's, and his desire is toward me. His left hand is under my head, and his right hand doth embrace me. (Song of Solomon 7:10,2:6) Husbands and wives should feel it their privilege and their duty to reserve for the privacy of each other's society the interchange of love tokens between themselves. His left hand should be under my head, and his right hand should embrace me. Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth... (Song of Solomon 8:3,1:2)“...rejoice with the wife of thy youth. Let her be as the loving hind and pleasant roe; let her breasts satisfy thee at all times; and be thou ravished always with her love. And, what exactly does the word ravished mean ? RAVISHED means delighted to ecstasy. Live joyfully with the wife whom thou lovest. (Ecclesiastes 9:9 12)


The husband who stands as the head of his wife as Christ stands as the head of His church, who loves his wife as he loves his own body, and cherishes and nourishes her as Christ the church, will not act in a way to destroy either his own powers or the powers of his wife. But it was not the design of God that the husband should have control, as head of the house, when he himself does not submit to Christ. He must be under the rule of Christ that he may represent the relation of Christ to church. If he is a coarse, rough, boisterous, egotistical, harsh, and overbearing man, let him never utter the word that the husband is the head of the wife, and that she must submit to him in everything; for he is not the Lord, he is not the husband in the true significance of the term. That man is not fit to stand as the head of his wife who does not realize his obligations to God to purify himself even as He is pure, and to present his body to God a living sacrifice.

When the Spirit of Christ controls the husband, the wife's subjection will only result in rest and benefit, for he will require from her only that which will result in good, and in the same way that Christ requires submission from the church. (Mark 9:35/Luke 14:11/Colossians 3:18/Ephesians 5:28/1 John 3:3)


All that makes men manly, or women womanly, is reflected from the character of Christ. In the beginning God created man a gentleman, which means a man who can do work cheerfully. When the Spirit of God is in man, it leads him to relieve rather than to create suffering. To be a man before the Lord is to be kind and sympathetic. It is to be compassionate and Christlike. The true man is one who is willing to sacrifice his own interest for the good of others and who exercises himself in binding up the brokenhearted. God's standard of man is elevated to the highest meaning of the term, and if he acts up to his God-given manhood he will promote happiness in this life, which will lead to glory and an eternal reward in the life to come To obey God's commandments is to do right and only right. This is Christian manliness. The right which one has to claim to be a man is determined by the use made of his intellect. Man's words, if of any value, echo the words of God. God has made man capable of constant progress in everything that constitutes mental and moral dignity. No other creature of his hand is capable of such advancement. Man can reach an eminence in self-control and dignity that will raise him above the slavery of appetite and passion, where he can stand before God as a man, his name written in the books of heaven. (Genesis 5:2/Galatians 3:28/Philippians 2:5/2 Corinthians 5:17/1 Peter 4:11/Luke 1:6/Revelation 22:14/1 Timothy 6:11)

By the grace of God, we will continue this study in another post. Have a wonderful weekend in Christ.

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