CHARACTERISTICS OF A BEAUTIFUL WOMAN - 12 KEYS TO HIS HEART - Marriage Counseling With The Wonderful Counselor - Part XVI

Do good character qualities come from television shows or movies ? Not according to God. While there are occasional portrayals of moral goodness in films and on screen, true beauty of person is the result of a life of cooperation with Jesus Christ in warring against oneself and doing good to others. The character of man or woman is developed by the grace of God through bringing their lives into harmony with the principles of God revealed int he word of God. Let's look at some more of the heavenly keys to a good man's heart by which a woman may soften and improve His character and give it completeness. Here are keys 3 - 5.

3. A WIFE WHO LOVES ORDER

Sin is a disorganizer. Wherever it is cherished--in the individual heart, in the household, in the church--there is disorder. God is displeased with disorder, slackness, and a lack of thoroughness, in anyone. These deficiencies are serious evils and tend to wean the affections of the husband from the wife when the husband loves order, well-disciplined children, and a well-regulated house. A wife and mother cannot make home agreeable and happy unless she possesses a love for order, preserves her dignity, and has good government. Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands. Disorder and untidiness in daily duties will lead to forgetfulness of God and to keeping the form of godliness in a profession of faith, having lost the reality. Unclean, neglected corners in the house will tend to make impure, neglected corners in the soul. Spiritual disease is the result of neglected duty. (1 Corinthians 14:40,33/Psalms 119:133/Proverbs 14:1,31:27/Isaiah 14:12,17/Matthew 12:43-45/Revelation 12:3,4,9)

4. A WIFE TO STAND BY HIS SIDE; A SAFE COUNSELOR

The wife is to stand by the side of the husband as his equal, sharing all the responsibilities of life, rendering due respect to him who has selected her for his lifelong companion. Woman should fill the position which God originally designed for her, as her husband's equal. The wife can be a comfort, a blessing, standing by the side of her husband as his safe counselor, her influence keeping him to the right, to honesty and purity and godliness. If she will elevate her affections, and in sanctification and honor preserve her refined, womanly dignity, woman can do much by her judicious influence to sanctify her husband, and thus fulfill her high mission. In so doing she can save both her husband and herself, thus performing a double work. (1 Corinthians 7:3,4,14/1 Peter 3:7/Proverbs 18:22/Genesis 2:24/Mark 10:8)

5. A WOMAN TO APPRECIATE AND RETURN HIS LOVE

My beloved is mine, and I am his. I am my beloved's, and my beloved is mine. Love cannot long exist without expression. A man's love may be sacredly bestowed, but if it is not sacredly appreciated and reciprocated it will die a natural death. Love is a plant of heavenly growth, and it must be fostered and nourished. While the wife should lean on her husband with respect and deference, she can in a wholesome, healthful way, manifest her strong affection for and confidence in the man she has chosen as her life companion. The reason why there are so many hardhearted men and women in the world is that true affection has been regarded as weakness, and has been discouraged and repressed. (Song of Solomon 2:16,6:3/Proverbs 27:5/Matthew 24:12/Titus 2:4/Ephesians 4;15)

By the grace of God, we will continue this study in another post. Have a wonderful evening.

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A GOOD MAN - WIN HIM AND KEEP HIM - 12 KEYS TO HIS HEART - Marriage Counseling With The Wonderful Counselor Part - XV

Ladies, it will require more than a Hollywood movie script to win a really good man and keep him. And if you already have a good man, there is always a way to help him be even better. To soften and improve his character and give it completeness will require guidance from the One who made the man. We're talking about the Creator - a loving heavenly Father who is willing to share in simple words the ways in which the godly good man can be won to your side and remain there.

WHAT A MAN/HUSBAND NEEDS -12 KEYS TO HIS HEART

WIN HIM AND KEEP HIM

1. A HAPPY HOME

A man without the blessings of a happy home, is deprived of an influence that would stimulate and strengthen him. Many of the diseases from which men suffer are the result of mental depression. Mental depression causes dyspepsia (upset stomach), and this aggravates the mental disorder. The brain is the capital of the body, the seat of all the nervous forces and of mental action. The nerves proceeding from the brain control the body. By the brain nerves, mental impressions are conveyed to all the nerves of the body as by telegraph wires; and they control the vital action of every part of the system. All the organs of motion are governed by the communications they receive from the brain. The brain nerves which communicate to the entire system are the only medium through which Heaven can communicate to man, and affect his inmost life. Tired nerves need rest and quiet. Nature needs time to recuperate her exhausted energies. Firm, quiet nerves and a healthy circulation help men to follow right principles and to listen to the promptings of conscience. A man's energy and success, as well as his happiness, depends, to a great degree, upon the character of his home. If a right influence is found there he can bravely encounter trials and discouragements without. His home is his haven of rest. But if there is discord at home, the tired nerves find no relief. The mind is subject to a constant tension, to preserve calmness and self-control. (Job 5:24/Isaiah 26:3,32:17,18/Proverbs 3:33,17:21,21:19,25:24,27:15/1 Timothy 6:6,8/Ecclesiastes 4:6/1 Corinthians 9:27)

2. A WIFE WHO HELPS HIM TO MAINTAIN HIS DIGNITY

Men were not created to be subject to poverty, disease and suffering, not for thoughtless inattention to their physical and spiritual wants, but for dignity, purity and elevation of character in this life, and for joy unspeakable and full of glory in the future immortal life. The husband comes home from his labor weary and perplexed, and meets a clouded brow instead of cheerful, encouraging words. He is but human, and his affections become weaned from his wife, he loses the love of his home, his pathway is darkened, and his courage destroyed. He yields his self-respect and that dignity which God requires him to maintain. The husband is the head of the family, as Christ is the head of the church, and any course which the wife may pursue to lessen his influence and lead him to come down from the dignified, responsible position God would have him occupy, displeases God. (Ephesians 1:3-5,3:9-11/2 Timothy 1:9,10/Romans 2:7/Isaiah 35:3/Revelation 3:2/Proverbs 14:1,31:12)

© 2010 Tyrone Keels

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HOW TO BE A DUMMY - DON'T EXERCISE - Health Instead of Disease Series #4

Science often makes strides in catching up to the counsel and advice of the Creator. Exercise is one of God's 8 laws of health and the benefits obtained in obedience to these laws is being discovered all the time. At the same time, Hollywood is making fortunes in profits from movies which poke fun at those who may have a little more weight than they might need and who are generally but sincerely ignorant of the laws of health. The Bible commends and encourages the person who recognizes the need to exercise. A wise man is strong; yea, a man of knowledge increaseth strength. (Proverbs 24:5) The LORD God is my strength, and he will make my feet like hinds' feet, and he will make me to walk upon mine high places. (Habakkuk 3:19)

A Christian author who saw the connection between health and religious experience shared the following valuable insight regarding exercise more than 100 years ago.

In order for the brain to have clearness and strength of thought, retentive memory, and mental power, the muscles of the body should have exercise a portion of each day in order to preserve and improve health. {HR/M11873 par. 5}

The whole body is designed for action; and unless the physical powers are kept in health by active exercise, the mental powers cannot long be used to their highest capacity. {Ed 207.2}

AND WHAT DO YOU SUPPOSE WOULD BE THE BEST EXERCISE FOR THE MIND ?

There is no exercise that can take the place of walking . By it the circulation of the blood is greatly improved. . . . Walking , in all cases where it is possible, is the best remedy for diseased bodies, because in this exercise all of the organs of the body are brought into use.-- T., V. III, p. 78. {HL 129. 5}

Without proper exercise, the mind cannot be sharp and will eventually grow weaker in power. This information is not new but now studies are confirming these words of wisdom concerning exercise, walking and the mind.

Studies show excercise is the best way to keep mind sharp- http://www.9wsyr.com/content/family_healthcast/story/Studies-show-excercise-is-the-best-way-to-keep/vl5AMhzDh0ip2G3yafExQA.cspx

EXERCISE SHOWN TO REVERSE BRAIN DETERIORATION BROUGHT ON BY AGING - http://news.illinois.edu/news/06/1120exercise.html

Aerobic Exercise Training Increases Brain Volume in Aging Humans - http://biomed.gerontologyjournals.org/cgi/content/abstract/61/11/1166

WHICH EXERCISE DO STUDIES CONFIRM AS THE BEST ?

WALKING

How memory improves; How memory works - http://www.usatoday.com/tech/columnist/aprilholladay/2007-03-26-memory-part-three_N.htm

Simple Walking Improves Memory -http://seniors-health-medicare.suite101.com/article.cfm/simple_walking_improves_memory

While it is true that there are many wonderful exercise programs and facilities which offer more than a walking experience, none are as simple or more natural than the one which our Creator included with the package of human anatomy we each own. Some people are more inclined to feel the need for additional equipment in order to complete their exercise regimen. Others may utilize tools to help with an aggressive strength building or weight loss routine. We are free to choose; but if all you want to do is make sure your mind stays sharp, walking will do just fine.

Try the 8 laws of health that God has revealed in His word. It may save you some time if you're waiting for science to discover what's best for your health.

Here are the 3 steps to be taken for the restoration of health.

1. In case of sickness, the cause should be ascertained.

2. Unhealthful conditions should be changed, wrong habits corrected.

3. Then nature is to be assisted in her effort to expel impurities and to re-establish right conditions in the system.

The use of herbs should complement obedience to the 8 laws of health. More information about this at www.issues-of-life.com under health issues.

By attempting to put into practice anything that you have read in this article you release Tyrone Keels from any responsibility for the results if you are dissatisfied with the outcome. Read the full disclaimer for health issues at www.issues-of-life.com

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DO YOU KNOW WHAT DO WITH A MAN ? - THE PURPOSE OF A WIFE/WOMAN - Marriage Counseling With The Wonderful Counselor - Part XIV

What makes a woman a good woman ? Don't rely on Hollywood for the right answer. If a woman intends to win the heart of a good man according to God's definition of good, she will need to know what her purpose is according to her Creator.

THE PURPOSE OF THE WIFE/WOMAN IS TO SOFTEN AND IMPROVE THE HUSBAND’S/MAN'S CHARACTER AND GIVE IT COMPLETENESS (1 Peter 3:1/1 Samuel 25:9-35)

IMPROVING HIS CHARACTER

God designed that man should be constantly improving, daily reaching a higher point in the scale of excellence. (and the wife’s purpose is to improve her husband’s character. Therefore the wife should be using her influence to lead her husband to study the Bible and obey the requirements of GOD. Why you may ask ?) The Bible presents a perfect standard of character. It will elevate the mind, improve the character, and give peace and joy to the heart. and the requirements of God are made in wisdom and goodness. In obeying them, the mind enlarges, the character improves. (Isaiah 13:12/Luke 9:23/Hebrews 4:12/Psalms 119:11)

As in the case of Daniel, in exact proportion as the spiritual character is developed, the intellectual capabilities are increased. It is when intellectual and moral power are combined that the greatest standard of manhood is reached. The right which one has to claim to be a man is determined by the use made of his intellect. In the attainment of a perfect Christian character, the culture of the intellect is necessary. (Daniel 1:19,20/1 Peter 4:1/Hebrews 8:10)

The human intellect gains expansion and vigor and acuteness by being taxed. As a means of intellectual training, the Bible is more effective than any other book, or all other books combined. ( Psalms 119:9,105/John 17:17)

GIVING HIS CHARACTER COMPLETENESS

The completeness of man is in Christ Jesus. Of Himself man cannot obtain completeness, but every gift of heaven is granted to those who will co-operate with Christ, striving day by day for the mastery over the deceptive temptations of the enemy. Godliness is the only solid foundation for true dignity and completeness of character. Love is the basis of godliness. The qualities which it is essential for all to possess are those which marked the completeness of Christ's character--His love, His patience, His unselfishness, and His goodness. These attributes are gained by doing kindly actions with a kindly heart. The completeness of Christian character is attained when the impulse to help and bless others springs constantly from within--when the sunshine of heaven fills the heart and is revealed in the countenance. (Colossians 2:10/Ephesians 3:19/Philippians 1:11/2 Peter 1:3-11/1 Timothy 6:11/1 John 3:7,10)

The wife can give completeness to her husband’s character (his thoughts and feelings) by attracting him to CHRIST to become a Christian or more CHRIST-like; by encouraging and influencing him to help and bless others; to do kindly deeds with a kindly heart. Don't let Hollywood be your guide.

By the grace of God, we will continue this study in another post. Have a wonderful weekend.

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MODERN SOCIETY - OLD SCHOOL DISEASES - SAME OLD STUFF - AND WE STILL HAVEN'T LEARNED - Health Instead Of Disease Series - #3

There is nothing new under the sun. Whatever has been will be again. These words have proven true over and over again. They are the words from the Bible - Ecclesiastes 1:9,10

Especially in the area of human lifestyle habits do we seem to be repeating the mistakes of the past. We may be living in the 21st century but our understanding of disease it's causes, prevention and cure is still ages behind as is evidenced by the overall health of our nation's population.

The 3 major killers in our society, heart disease, cancer and stroke are not really that new. According to a Science Daily article, hardening of the arteries was detected in mummies 3,500 years old. Check out the following link.

Heart Disease Found in Egyptian Mummies - http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2009/11/091117161017.htm

This itself is not new news. We've known for some time that old habits die hard and the transgressions of our ancestors are often greedily gobbled up and perpetuated in our generation.

Disease never comes without a cause. The way is prepared, and disease invited, by disregard of the laws of health.

Disease is an effort of nature to free the system from conditions that result from a violation of the laws of health.

Since disease results from violating the laws of health, it is very important that everyone know and understand the laws of health and strive by the grace of God to live in harmony with them.

These 8 laws may be found detailed at http://www.issues-of-life.com/Web%20Pages%20-%20Health%20Disclaimer.html

Any person who examines these laws will quickly recognize the lifestyle habits which he or she has adopted that are contributing to disease. This is the first step towards identifying the cause of disease and making an effective treatment possible.

Here are the 3 steps to be taken for the restoration of health.

1. In case of sickness, the cause should be ascertained.

2. Unhealthful conditions should be changed, wrong habits corrected.

3. Then nature is to be assisted in her effort to expel impurities and to re-establish right conditions in the system.

The use of herbs should complement obedience to the 8 laws of health. More information about this at www.issues-of-life.com under health issues.

By attempting to put into practice anything that you have read in this article you release Tyrone Keels from any responsibility for the results if you are dissatisfied with the outcome. Read the full disclaimer for health issues at www.issues-of-life.com

© 2010 Tyrone Keels

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DON'T HELP HIM DIE - THE PURPOSE OF A WIFE/WOMAN - Marriage Counseling With the Wonderful Counselor - Part XIII

Can a woman be truly great even if she does not fulfill the purpose for which she was created ? Movies seem to portray in a mocking manner a woman's true potential. If a woman desires a truly good man and wants him to grow more and more in love with her, she will need the following information.

THE PURPOSE OF THE WIFE/WOMAN IS TO SOFTEN AND IMPROVE THE HUSBAND’S/MAN'S CHARACTER AND GIVE IT COMPLETENESS (1 Peter 3:1/1 Samuel 25:9-35)

Since the husband’s character needs softening, improving and completeness the wife needs to understand exactly what character is. What is that makes up the character ?

“...The thoughts and feelings combined make up the moral character.” She should also understand how her husband’s thoughts and feelings are related. If the thoughts are wrong the feelings will be wrong. If the feelings of the natural heart are not restrained and brought into subjection by the sanctifying influence of the grace of God received through the channel of faith, the thoughts of the heart are not pure and holy. The thoughts and feelings cherished give direction to the conduct, and thus determine the character. As a man thinketh, so is he. (Isaiah 55:7/Genesis 6:5/Psalms 10:4/Proverbs 12:5/Philippians 4:8)

A man’s thoughts and feelings lead him to action. Thus his character is revealed. The wife is to soften, improve and give completeness to her husband’s thoughts and feelings. By knowing GOD’s purpose for her, the wife is prepared to recognize and satisfy the needs of her husband’s heart that GOD created her to fulfill. She must first choose to be converted to Christ in order to be able to do this.

SOFTENING HIS CHARACTER

The grace of Christ softens harsh traits of character and smooths out the rugged disposition. The grace of Christ changes the whole man, making the coarse refined, the rough gentle, the selfish generous. It controls the temper and the voice. The theme of saving grace is an antidote for a harsh spirit. Grace means favor to one who is undeserving, to one who is lost. (1 Corinthians 15:10/2 Corinthians 8:9/Ephesians 4:29/Colossians 3:16,4:6/Philemon 1:25/James 4:6)

For these reasons the wife herself must first be kept by grace, filled with grace, and living by grace then praying for grace to be bestowed upon her husband. And what must the wife do to receive this grace ? She must be humble. “...for God resisteth the proud, and giveth grace to the humble.”(1 PETER 5:5)

To make God's grace our own, we must act our part. The Lord does not propose to perform for us either the willing or the doing. His grace is given to work in us to will and to do, but never as a substitute for our effort. Unless a determined effort is made to keep the thoughts centered on Christ, grace cannot reveal itself in the life. Every heart that is not subdued by grace is treacherous, and will lead to ruin. (Romans 6:14/2 Corinthians 9:8/Ephesians 2:5,8/Titus 2:11/Hebrews 4:16,12:28/2 Peter 1:2-4,3:18)

Read 2 PETER 1:2 to find out how grace is multiplied and read Hebrews 4:16 to know where you must go to obtain grace.

By the grace of God, we will continue this study in another post. Have a wonderful weekend in Christ

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